My girlfriend doesn't want to have sex with me because my penis is too big

DEAR DEIDRE: MY girlfriend is put off having sex with me because it hurts her. She reckons my manhood is too big.

Her cries really put me off and we are both becoming very frustrated.

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Other girls I’ve had sex with have never said anything like this. I thought I was of average size but she told me I’m not.

She says her previous boyfriends were much smaller and that mine is way more than average.

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I would like us to be able to have intercourse but I hate hurting her.

I am 26 and my girlfriend is 24. We’ve been together for six months.

DEIDRE SAYS: It sounds as though your girlfriend isn’t fully aroused when you have sex.

You need to go gently and have lots of sexy foreplay without rushing into intercourse. It can make all the difference.

Experiment with different positions too.

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