A MUM was forced to defend herself after saying that she always puts herself before her partner and child – and says parents should never prioritise their kids over themselves.

Mum-of-one Raya Michelle said she's even "ready to fight about it" because she knows she "is right" and told parents who think otherwise to "reassess your life".

Posting on her TikTok page, Raya demonstrated the "order in which my care gets dispersed" saying she will always care for herself first, then her partner and then their daughter.

"But Raya that feels backwards, shouldn't you… no," she mocked, before explaining her reasons why.

"If my needs aren't getting met and I'm not feeling cared for, nobody below me on this list is having a good time and same with Justin [her partner].

"If his needs aren't met and he doesn't feel cared for nobody is going to have a good time above or below him because my needs won't get met if his needs won't get met and neither of us can meet our daughter's needs if our needs aren't met."

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Raya argued that it's "not that hard" to understand, adding: "If people keep saying things like 'my child is the only thing that gives meaning to my life' then you need to reassess your life."

Many people disagreed with Raya's views and shared their thoughts in the comments section on the video.

"I'm sorry, as a parent you don't get feelings and wants you brought someone into this world to provide needs and wants for [them]. Maybe no kids? (sic)" one person fumed.

With another adding: "Yeah no, you're a sociopath. You're the adult, it doesn't matter how you're feeling because your kids needs come first, always."

Many took aim at the fact Raya looks after her man, with some saying she shouldn't "mother" him.

But in a follow up clip, the mum-of-one clarified what she meant by "looking after his needs" and this doesn't necessarily mean "feed him" and "kiss him" when he wants and "wear dresses".

She said: "What I meant is things like how we moved across the country to better his career so we can eventually take better care of our daughter because we would have more money.

"Or picking up an extra dinner night because he's burnt out from work, or little things like noticing that he's burnt out and being like 'hey, get out of the house.'"

While many slammed her opinion, others totally agreed and suggested that a "happy and healthy mum" is extremely important.

"Everyone is taking what she's saying wrong. I get it, she is correct. If mumma is happy and healthy, she wants to take care of her kids," one said.

"This changed my entireperspective. You're so right," chimed another.

While a third wrote: "I agree. If my basic needs aren't met, I'm not mentally healthy enough to take care of my child. No one is going to take care of me but myself."

In more parenting news, this woman says she's a lazy parent – she doesn't play with her daughter who has a double bed instead of a cot, she's even ditched baby gates.

Meanwhile, this mum says she's trolled for being a lazy mum – her babies go to sleep when they want & she makes my her girl, 6, clean and cook for herself.

And this mum says she's sick of perfect mums judging her for being a bad parent – her kids eat junk & her house is a mess but she's proud of it.

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