DEAR DEIDRE: I HAVE decided I want to be a father but have previously agreed with my partner we wouldn’t have children.

I’m 39 and she is 36. We’ve both got good jobs and we have our own home, two nice cars and enjoy our holidays.

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My partner has always said she’s not maternal and I agreed that having children was not something I was interested in.

But my best mate and his wife have just had the most adorable little girl.

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I was overwhelmed with love for her. She’s perfect.

I now feel I’d like to be a dad too, but I’m scared to tell my girlfriend I’ve changed my mind.

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DEIDRE SAYS: There is nothing wrong in changing your mind but when it comes to having a child, there is no compromise to be had.

Your partner may feel differently now, too.

But if she doesn’t, is this relationship more important to you than becoming a father?

If she is your priority, then don’t keep on at her about starting a family. Leave it six months or so and then address the subject again.

If she still feels the same way, you may decide you would be better off going your separate ways.