FROM telling her she was "dumb" to describing sex with her as a "chore", a woman has revealed all the ways her ex-boyfriend 'gaslighted' her during their four-year relationship.

Kadie Holmes, 23, from Washington in the US, has opened up about suffering emotional abuse by her partner, who was six years her senior.

In a blog post for Love What Matters, the nursing home assistant revealed how her experience of 'gaslighting' – a form of psychological manipulation – made her question "my own sanity".

She revealed that he'd make nasty comments about their sex life and put her down until she believed she was stupid – all the while cheating with her best friend.

“It started with the little things like calling me dumb, or stupid," she wrote.

"I would ask a question, he would look at me so upset, sigh and say, ‘God Kadie, how can you be so dumb?’ ‘You’re such an idiot, how do you survive?’”

It progressed to the point where she was convinced she was losing her grip on reality.

"He would tell me one thing and make plans with me but at the same time make plans with his friends, but tell them I’m making him say no, he can’t hang out with them," recalled Kadie – who gradually gained weight during their relationship, between 2014 and 2018.

“He always told me to ‘prove it’ and that ‘I’m remembering it wrong’.”

She eventually discovered, after finding an exchange of text messages, that he was cheating on her with her best friend.

"She was younger than me, blonde like me, had the ‘spark’ of energy I used to have before he tore me away," she continued.

"She was young, shiny, new, full of life, and ambition."

Although she took photos of the messages as evidence, he still responded with: " I have no idea what you’re talking about.”

Then he effectively blamed her for leading him to stray, telling her: " Having sex with you is like a chore."

It took several months for her to develop the courage to leave her abusive ex.

During this time an undiagnosed lactose intolerant- which made her gassy – caused her to pass wind during sex.

“He stopped, got up told me how turned off he was and how disgusting I am and walked out," she explained.

“I cried, felt so disgusting with myself for just having a normal bodily function.”

After ending the relationship, she lost 20kg and has met someone new who has helped her "see the world differently".

In other relationship news, we told you how millions of Brits are racking up huge debts to pay for their weddings.

We also revealed how a Tory MP, 26, starred in a TV show with lover who is 35 years her senior.

And women are posing for kinky festive £300 photoshoots to make their other halves blush this Christmas.

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