Whether you’re 15 or 50, you’re probably used to older family members referring to you and your siblings as ‘the kids’.
Yes, you might have a mortgage, a full-time job, and even be a parent yourself, but it’s always been that way.
But for one woman, being called ‘kid’ grated on her so much, that she asked for it to stop – and let’s just say, it didn’t go so well.
Taking to Reddit the woman explained that she is 27, and has a boyfriend (C), who is 28. She has an older sister (B), 29, and a brother-in-law, who is 33. As a collective, their step-mum, Victoria (V), who is 67, refers to them as ‘the kids’.
She wrote: ‘About two years ago V started referring to the four of us as “kids”.
‘Example: we have a family home in a different city, and when we visit V refers to the rooms on the top floor (mine, B’s) as the “kids’ rooms”.
‘V calling the four of us kids has implications: 1) that we are all related to each other, 2) that we are all the ages of children, and 3) V does speak to us generally as though we are children.’
Unhappy with this, the poster asked her to stop calling the group ‘kids’ and says ‘the conversation went poorly.’
The poster said she had been polite, and said: ‘The four of us feel this way, not just me. I don’t think I’ve ever truly asked you for anything, so please honor the one request I’m making of you not to call us kids.’
So far, so good, right?
Well, it seems when V relayed the conversation back to her husband – the poster’s dad – things got out of hand.
The woman wrote: ‘Whatever V said to my Dad was awful enough that it prompted him to storm outside and begin yelling at me.
‘I tried to explain that I had asked V nicely to not call us kids anymore, but my explanation fell on deaf ears. He was yelling/cursing at me, standing up for V… I was sobbing the whole time.’
Now, the poster’s dad is demanding she apologise to her step-mum.
The woman wanted to know if other Reddit users thought she was being unreasonable – and she didn’t get a whole lot of sympathy.
‘It really sounds like you are reading too much into it,’ wrote one commenter. ‘My brothers, cousin, and I were well into our 40s, still being referred to as kids by the older generation of our family.’
Another wrote: ‘A lot of people refer to their adult children as kids.’
While a third added: ‘Honestly, reading this whole thing, I’m willing to bet [the woman] is a spoiled young woman, who is also probably pretty insufferable. I cannot fathom taking offense to this. To them, they are “the kids.” It’s a very normal categorisation of the next generation.’
However, there were some that could see her point of view.
‘All of you were adults when she came into the picture, so I can see you feeling weird about the term she’s using,’ said one user.
‘And you should be able to ask someone to stop referring to you as whatever without getting screamed at by an unhinged adult.’
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