My ex always asks me to come over for sex and then backs out when I agree

DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex texts me wanting to come over for some “fun” then finds an excuse to back out when I agree.

I am a 29-year-old gay man and we split up six months ago after two years together.

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He is 28. I really thought he was The One and it has been tough getting over him.

Just when I think I am doing OK, he will start flirting and I am drawn back in again.

I cannot seem to say no to him.

I have told him he’s playing games but he denies it.

I want to make a no-contact rule, yet at the same time I do not want to lose him as a friend.

I feel stuck in a corner and in a place I don’t want to be.

DEIDRE SAYS: At best, your ex is confused about what he wants and at worst he is playing mind-games with you.

Sometimes it is possible to stay friends when a relationship ends but more often not – especially if one of you has crossed boundaries.

Take control and do what is best for you, then you will stop feeling stuck and be free to move on from a relationship that has run its course.