DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend calls all the shots – and guilt-trips me into staying when I want to leave.
He is 30, I’m a woman of 42 and we have been dating for two years.
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But I realised nine months ago that he wasn’t the man I thought.
During an argument about my sister coming to stay, he pushed me against the wall and threatened to punch me.
My stepdad was violent to my mum for years, so I have always vowed to never be with a man like that.
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But every time I try to leave, he threatens to kill himself.
How do I get away?
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DEIDRE SAYS: You are completely within your rights to remove yourself from this relationship.
Your boyfriend continues to use this threat because he knows it works – this is coercive control.
Contact the National Domestic Abuse Helpline (nationaldahelpline.org.uk) who can advise you on your options and help you make a safe exit plan.
I’m also sending you my support pack, Abusive Partner, which lists other organisations that can help.
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