DEAR DEIDRE: I’M struggling to get an erection, but I’m too scared to tell my partner.

She knows something is wrong and keeps asking me if there is a problem. I have been fobbing her off and telling her everything is fine, which is a lie.

I am worried that she will leave me if we don’t have sex again soon. I am 51 and my girlfriend is 49. We have been together for almost a year and we have a good relationship.

I have spoken to my doctor and he prescribed Viagra, but it doesn’t do anything for me – I still can’t get an erection.

I have had blood tests, which have come back as normal.

My doctor says it is psychological, but what does that even mean?

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DEIDRE SAYS: If your relationship is strong, your partner won’t leave you just because of this.

Your problem is likely to be performance anxiety, which is psychological.

You’re tense and anxious, having got into a pattern of worrying about failure.

That in itself is enough to block your sexual responses.

My support pack Solving Erection Problems explains self-help sex therapy.

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