DEAR DEIDRE:  EITHER I stay in a loveless and unhappy marriage or lose everything. I feel those are my only two options.

It all changed when our baby girl arrived. Before then our marriage was fine. My wife is 29 and I am 32.

When she said she wanted a baby, my reply was: “Let’s do it!” Big mistake.

Our daughter is now a year old.

It was hard in lockdown but it wasn’t much better before.

My wife makes no effort to make herself nice to know.

She smokes like crazy and snacks all the time.

She moans about being overweight but does nothing about it.

She is moody and negative, drains the life out of me and we’re rarely intimate.

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DEIDRE SAYS:  For now, the main point is your daughter.

Forget your own needs for a bit.

Your wife could be suffering from post-natal depression, probably made worse by the lockdown.

Give her your time and support and explain very clearly how worried you are.

Say you want her to see her GP and, for your baby’s sake, to stop smoking.

My e-leaflets Post-natal Depression and Giving Up Smoking can help.

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