DEAR DEIDRE: IN the middle of an argument, I broke up with my partner – even though that’s the opposite of what I wanted to do.

She’s 39, I’m 41 and we’ve been together for nine years. A lot of our problems stem from me being lazy.


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I wanted an easy, part-time job, so I took one as a cleaner in a school. It’s not great money and I moan about it a lot.

Plus, I’m never around to help with our kids, who are seven and five.

Last month, my partner asked for a bit of space.

She said she hadn’t been happy for a while and needed to decide if this is what she really wanted.

I was furious. How could she give up on me and our family?

I got myself into a state, screaming and shouting at her.

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In the end, I broke up with her. I think I wanted a reaction – but she said nothing.

Now she won’t answer my calls or texts, so I haven’t been able to convince her to take me back.

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