DEAR DEIDRE: TO the outside world I have the perfect life. I’ve got a good job in teaching, a husband my family adores and a lovely home.

But I am not in love with my husband. I think of him only as a good friend.

I’m 31 and he is 33. We married six years ago.

We met a couple of months after I had been assaulted while on holiday in Greece with my best friend.

One morning we woke up in a house full of men, half-naked and disoriented. We believe we were sexually assaulted.

Neither of us wanted to go to the police.

My kind husband put me back together. I feel like I owe him my life, but I’m so lonely.

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DEIDRE SAYS:  You don’t have to go to the police but please get support for the assault. Rape Crisis ( will help.

Before you tell your husband you don’t love him, be sure of your feelings.

He was there for you but gratitude alone can’t sustain a relationship.

Consider counselling to help you as you come to terms with your assault and work out whether your relationship has a future.

My counselling support pack will help you find a therapist.


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