BETRAYAL hurts and in some cases, can be unforgivable.

For one woman, losing her husband AND her best friend at the same time, was painful and has now got even trickier.

She took to Reddit to share her worries, where she explained that after 20 years of marriage, two years ago her husband left her for her best friend and they are now married with a child.

She said that: "What hurt the most was the betrayal from my best friend. I loved this woman and considered her a sister."

Her and her best friend had been close for fifteen years.


On her wedding day, her mother-in-law told her that men like her son don't stay loyal to women like her, so strangely, her husbands affair was not a huge surprise.

She said: "A betrayal from a sister hits just as hard as a betrayal from a husband."

Since finding out about the affair she has not contacted her ex-husband or her former best friend.

With 5 kids, that can be pretty tricky.

Instead, she manages communication regarding her kids through a third party.

Her kids know she will not attend events her ex-husband and ex-bff are at, they all celebrate birthdays separately and her kids know not to mention them to her.

So far, her kids have respected her boundaries as she recovers from a hurtful experience.

Her FIVE kids are now a 16-year-old girl, a 17-year-old boy, a 17-year-old girl, an 18-year-old daughter, and a 21-year-old son.

When the affair happened the oldest kids stopped talking to their mums former best friend but this was much trickier for her youngest child.

Their mother admitted that recently her 16-year-old daughter asked her if she could call her stepmom "mom".

Her daughter explained that she will have a half-sibling soon and doing this will make the half-sibling less confused.

The mum of five said: "I told her that no, I am not ok with that woman being called "mom", but she could call her that if she wanted to.

"My youngest is a very loving person. Her step mom has been in her life since she was 1 year old.

"Back then she was "auntie", after the affair all my other children turned away from her but it wasn't so easy for my youngest. She still cares for her.

"Just because I don't like it doesn't mean she doesn't have to do it. I won't be mad at her if she calls her "mom". The other kids started getting mad at her but I shut them down."

To make matters worse, her mother-in-law then called her screaming her head off, telling her that she was alienating the stepmom and I should have told her grand daughter that she is ok with it.

The busy mum seemed reasonable, saying: "I have an honest policy with my kids, I am always open and honest with them.

Just because I do not personally like something they do, doesn't mean I don't let them do it."

The betrayed mother explained that despite her husbands new family, her boundaries are still clear and she has zero contact with her ex-husband, his mother and her former best friend.

Commenters had their own theories on the relationship.

One thought that the daughter was being pressured, saying: "grandma probably wouldn’t have heard about it. Someone is pressuring her to call the step mom “mom” and didn‘t like that she refused."

Others told the mum she should tell her daughter how it makes her feel, saying: "daughter is so disappointing. You should tell your daughter how it hurts. Just saying it’s not OK is not enough. Daughter should now realize It’s an active choice to hurt her mother."

Another commenter realised time would not be on the daughters side, as they wrote: "The new baby may grow up more confused if they think their other sibs are all nearly old enough to be their parents."

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